Asian Americans bullied the most in the US? How to fight back.

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Asian Americans Unite and Fight Bullying

Recently very upsetting news reached my ears.  Asian American kids in the U.S. are the most bullied out of all the races.

The research, to be released on Saturday, found that 54 percent of Asian American teenagers said they were bullied in the classroom, sharply above the 31.3 percent of whites who reported being picked on.
The figure was 38.4 percent for African Americans and 34.3 percent for Hispanics, a government researcher involved in the data analysis told AFP. He requested anonymity because the data has not been made public.
The disparity was even more striking for cyber-bullying.
Some 62 percent of Asian Americans reported online harassment once or twice a month, compared with 18.1 percent of whites. The researcher said more study was needed on why the problem is so severe among Asian Americans.  (Full Article)

But, I’m not surprised.  Many immigrant parents come to the states, and spend way too much time focusing on money.  The father is busy running the restaurant, or working in software.  The tiger mom is strict and forcing their kids to get perfect grades, learn piano or violin, and get scholarships.  These kids are so stressed out, all they can do is put their heads down and study hard.  Their social skills suffer, and they have trouble assimilating since the values their parents teach them are incompatible with American society.  They feel alone and embarrassed since they feel no support from the home, and they just can’t seem to fit in at school.   Continue reading

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Advice to SAMs: Be a Geek

geeks and nerds Advice to SAMs: Be a Geek

It seems that a lot of Asian and Asian-American guys think they have the opposite problem, that they are too geeky, or at least perceived as such. However, from the perspective of a girl who has dated, dumped, and been dumped by a succession of you, it is vastly better to be a geek than not.

Geeks are sexy. It is hot when a guy is passionate, knowledgeable, and deeply into something. And off-putting when he doesn’t seem to care about anything with particular intensity. Continue reading

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A quick recap of my Asian American experience as a SAM

miyagi1 A quick recap of my Asian American experience as a SAM

Miyagi...Go Karate




So I wanted to share with you all several experiences I had this past 2 weeks related to me being Asian:

  • BBQ at friend’s house:
    I went to an outdoor BBQ and while I was playing volleyball with the rest of the people, this one white dude whom I know just as an acquiantance kept saying “Go Mr. Miyagi!” and “Get that ball Miygai!” everytime I hit the ball. Nice right? Trust me, I look nothing like Mr. Miyagi or Pat Morita. And yeah, I was the only Asian person there and most of the white people were blue collar and/or rednecks. My first mistake – going to this BBQ.

  • Goodbye party for a friend:
    I went to a farewell party/dinner for a friend who was moving and there was this one obnoxious white guy who kept saying “Hey Ninja!” and “Miyagi go Karate!”. Why God do I have to put up with this? Why Miyagi? I fuckin hate that movie “The Karate Kid”. And he went on to say “You Asians are always screwing each other over” and “You Asians are always fighting with each other”. I got so mad that I whipped out my nunchuks and clonked him on his head but not before I did a chop suey across his chest. Hiya!

  • At the coffee shop on a lazy Sunday afternoon:
    I was sitting at a coffee shop just minding my own business when this white guy approached me and said “Ahn Young Ha Sae Yo!” I looked up and just smiled awkwardly. Mind you, I’ve encountered this before many times where an overly excited white person who happens to know a phrase or two in Korean or whatever has the urgent and desperate need to showcase their linguistic “talents”. This always annoys me though. First off, I’m not impressed. Second, if you’re going to say that to me in Korean, you better bow too motherfucker because I’m older than you. Third, leave leave leave me alone! Americans typically know only one language and some would argue that some don’t even know proper English at all. So when they happen to pick up a phrase in a foreign language they think they’re the shits all of a sudden. But all they really have done is butcher the Asian language. Hey, when I came to the U.S. as a young lad, did I go around saying “Howdy Partner!” to every white person?

  • On the bus way to work:
    This one happens to me from time to time – White person tells me with suprise “Wow, your English is pretty good!” LOL. Wow, I sure do hope my English is good since I grew up here in the U.S.

  • On a date with a white girl I met online:
    I get this all the time from white girls – “Wow, you’re pretty tall for an Asian guy” (I’m 6). I tell them, “Wow, you’re pretty slim for a white girl”.

  • Random guy at the tennis court:
    I had this one white person ask me “I’ve visited China recently and hardly saw any Chinese people on bikes.” Really? So he thought everybody in China still rides bicycles around like the good old days. Amazing.

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Moral Decadence in China due to capitalism, rising materialism and wealth?



UPDATE: 2 year old baby has died – Click here

Yueyue, a 2-year-old, moments before she is hit by a truck in Foshan City in China

I’ve heard some Chinese Americans tell me that the Chinese people tend to be selfish and not altruistic. They tend to be self-absorbed and willing to scrutinize and judge other Chinese rather than help them. They tend to look at other Chinese as competition rather than have the common unified sense of community.

So when I read this horrible story, it reminded me of the things that several Chinese people have told me, here on this site and in person from friends, acquintances, etc. It was basically a hit and run by 2 vehicles and the hapless victim was a 2 year old baby. No one helped the baby who was lying in a pool of blood and now the baby is brain dead now and will most likely die. At least a dozen people just walked around the baby!

This incident has sparked a focus on the supposedly declining moral values of Chinese society due to capitalism, money, profits, materialism, and overall increase in affluence. There is a public outrage at the very public who failed to help.

Is it fair to blame materialism, increasing wealth, and money for this type of behavior. Certainly, this has been known to occur in the already prosperous U.S. but it usually compromises of victims who are the homeless.

I was told that the Chinese are notorious for not looking out for other fellow Chinese people. That they only look out for themselves and that they like to see other Chinese fail so they can feel better about themselves. And all this was told by a Chinese person! Is this true? Do you agree? Is this a form of Asian on Asian crime?

Click here for the news article on CBS

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I got stereotyped by a dumb white waitress! Damn!

waitress I got stereotyped by a dumb white waitress!  Damn!

"Recommendations? Since you're Asian, I'm sure you'll love our teriyaki burger!"

Recently I went to a trendy burger joint with a bunch of buddies for lunch.  There were about six of us including two East Asians, a half Asian, a Hispanic guy, a Hispanic guy, and a token white guy.  Looking at the menu, I decided I wanted to be daring and try the burger with the habanero pepper mayo.  For those who don’t know, the habanero pepper is one of the spiciest on the planet, being thousands of times hotter than the jalapeno.  But, I really wanted to try it.  When the waitress came to take our orders, I was still unsure if I wanted to try the burger or not because it was after all habanero!  But, I was thinking perhaps they took the flavor of habanero and infused it into this mayo to make it tasty but still edible.

So, it was my turn as she went around the table.  She was a young Caucasian waitress in her early 20s.

“So, what do you want”, she asked.
“I want the burger with the habanero mayo on it.  But, I’m a little worried.  How spicy is the habanero mayo?”  Her response was really unexpected, and very strange.
“You’re Asian, I’m sure you can handle it”, she said! Continue reading

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I’m fed up with Hollywood using Asian stereotypes for cheap laughs

2brokegirls1 Im fed up with Hollywood using Asian stereotypes for cheap laughs

"Short asexual Asian man with heavy Engrish accent"

I wanted to vent and rant about something that constantly keeps coming up and it’s just getting really annoying. Negative Asian male stereotypes. I experienced a couple of unappealing things in the course of 1 day while hanging out at home one night watching TV.

(1) I was watching TV one day and there was this reality show where there are 2 hot white girls inside a house and one by one, a guy rings the doorbell. The girls view the guys who are outside the front door via a camera and they judge whether they can come in or not – worthy enough to meet the hot girls inside. One of the guys happens to be an Asian guy and this is what the girls commented: “Uh, he looks a little short”, “I wonder if the rest of him fits his short height”, “Sorry William Hung but you’re just not hung enough for me”.

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For most people this may be funny to them but for me, it’s annoying and completely aggravating. People tell me to chill out and just not worry about it. And I try. But this kind of shit always pops up as I live and go through my daily life. I don’t look for it or seek it. I am bombarded on a daily basis by these kinds of things. And one of the biggest source of this the damn TV, which I sometimes watch.

(2) There was another TV show called “2 Broke Girls” – In it, the diner where the 2 broke girls work at is owned by a tiny short Asian guy. He’s deathly afraid of GIRLS – he’s shy, timid, and comes across as being asexual. I get it, the character is a Asian nerd who’s afraid of girls and acts like he’s some prudis childish imbecile. There is an ounce of sexuality brooding within him and he comes across as lacking any sort of sexual quality. And his character is not gay. Don’t get me wrong – I’m not some prude uptight Asian guy who don’t have a sense of humor. I actually liked the show. But why does Hollywood have to go there and make those cheap shots at the expense of Asians? It’s the same old tired story.

So what is it? Why does an Asian guy have to be portrayed that he is asexual, short, have a small penis, and not interested in sex or girls? I am not short, asexual, afraid of girls, and have a small penis. And I know many other Asian guys who are tall, sexual, love girls and sex, and have big penises….haha – joking!

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The same Asian character in “2 Broke Girls” had a heavy Asian accent. I looked this up – The Asian actor can speak English fluently yet he speaks in a broken English accent on the show. This is unnerving and really gets me angry. It seems almost every Asian on TV or movie has the Asian accent. What does that say about Hollywood?

And to top it all off, one the girl characters on the show says “You can’t tell an Asian he made a mistake. He’ll go in back and throw himself on a sword…” – Oh wow!

As an Asian man or even an Asian girl, don’t you get tired of seeing and hearing these negative stereotypes projected and broadcasted all over the TV and the media in general? Does this not bother you at all? Asian men have to realize that many non-Asian and even other Asians buy into these stereotypes and start to believe they are truths.

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The cast of '2 Broke Girls' (See far left)

One writer on a blog wrote this and I can’t disagree more:

The two work at a greasy spoon diner in the thick of hipsterville and they have a Korean boss (played by Matthew Moy) with what seems to be a stereotypical portrayal of an Asian: broken English, dorky Osh Kosh B’Gosh for adults wardrobe, and a wide-eyed naive view of America. In other words, a FOB. Way harsh, right? Not necessarily.

My love for the show aside, there have been rumblings of Asian Americans getting ready to attack the show for its Long Duk Dong tendencies, but after watching the show, I would like to politely ask Asian Americans to retract their fists of fury.

Sure, there are details of Moy’s character that would immediately make all of us go into militant mode. For instance, Moy’s character’s name is Han Lee, but he opts to Americanize his name by calling himself “Bryce Lee.” You can look at these two ways: 1.) Offensive because it degrades an iconic name in Asian culture or 2.) Funny because it is a social commentary on how immigrants change their names at a moment’s notice. I opt for the latter because there is no need to waste energy on yet another Bruce Lee joke. Yes, Bruce Lee is an icon and the very fact that they are parodying his name is testimony to that. And imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, no? Plus, the use “Bruce Lee as a gag” is the same ol’ rhetoric that we have been beating like a dead water buffalo for years. In the right context, it isn’t offensive. Half the time, we make a point for it to be offensive.

Other than the name and the exaggerated look of Moy’s character, there really isn’t any other reason to waste energy over complaining about Bryce Lee. With the screen time he has, Moy owns the role. He doesn’t degrade it. It would be a totally different story if they had him using an abacus in each scene or constantly eating kimchi or worse — driving a Honda with a ridiculous body kit and/or building the foundation for K-Town 2.0.

Plus, the show is a sitcom — a “situation comedy.” It’s supposed to be funny. But if you insist on getting frowning upon Moy’s character, then you might as well throw in their stereotypical portrayal of Earl (Garrett Morris), a cool-as-hell black man with a “jive” accent, the dirty and misogynistic Russian cook Oleg (Jonathan Kite), the jabs taken at Russian mobsters, the preconceived notions about high society, and finally the horrible attacks made upon hipsters wearing knit beanies.


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Pump it up my Asian brothers: Benefits of Lifting Weights

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Look like this and nobody will mess with you

We really appreciate your comments, and we learn a lot from them.  Some of our readers say they’ve experienced racism, while others say they haven’t.  Why is it that some people are targeted while others are not?  There have been several instances where a reader will mention they have never been victimized by racists because they happen to be very tall or muscular.

Racists are cowards and target those who they perceive as weak.  Asians in white media are often portrayed as wimps, and so a lot of Americans get the notion that it’s safe to pick on the Asian guys.  Oftentimes since Asian parents emphasize education over sports and socializing, a lot of Asian American guys can be scrawny in comparison to the average American kids who can’t count to ten but can catch a football.

How can you avoid getting picked on?  One answer is to get stronger and bigger by lifting weights. There are many benefits to this.  You get stronger so that you can protect yourself in case a punk ass provokes you.  When you get physically stronger, you get more confident in your social life.  It’s definitely true that if you feel good about yourself, you tend to radiate that.  But, the best thing about gaining some muscle is that it will intimidate the racists, and they will avoid giving you trouble.  They will look at your physique, think twice, and move on to easier prey.

I think a lot of Asians do not do weight training.  Although Asians are just as active in sports, many of them just don’t lift.  My dad was a muscular guy, but I never saw him weight train.  He did stuff like push ups, sit ups, boxing, and running to stay in shape.  The traditional martial arts like Karate or Taekwondo work the body by doing drills and training that uses the weight of the body.  They rarely involve lifting heavy metal.  Also, I think that many Asians like myself thought that Asian guys genetically can’t get that muscular and bulky.  But the more research I do, I realize this is false.

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Michael Chang of SixPackShortcuts

I came across this guy on YouTube recently, and was thoroughly impressed.  He is well-spoken, confident, intelligent, ripped, and he has a great system for gaining muscle and strength while losing weight.  His name is Mike Chang , and he went from being obese to getting ripped through lifting weights, studying the body, and eating smart.  He did so well that he became a full time personal trainer, and created Six Pack Shortcuts online.  He is an Asian American guy who is shattering all the stereotypes we face.  I think he’s a great role model.

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My response to Candace Kita’s article "Angry Asian Man"

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candacekita My response to Candace Kitas article "Angry Asian Man"

Candace Kita - Actor and women’s safety advocate, Author of “The Hottie Handbook: A Girl’s Guide to Safety." As a safety specialist, Candace has been interviewed by People, Good Morning America, Jay Leno Show, Inside Edition, Los Angeles Times, 48 Hours, the LOGO Network and WHO Australia


I read Candace Kita’s article “Angry Asian Man” on www.asiancemagazine.com and felt compelled to write a response to the many points she made in it. I agree with some of the things that she was saying but highly disagreed with others. At any rate, it’s a good article in that it brings up key topics and subject matter, many of which we often discuss on our site here. She’s a great writer with lots of good insight and of course they are from the perspective of an Asian American woman.

Click “Angry Asian Man” to read her article.

And you can check out my response to her article here. Check it out! Let me know what y’all think!

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