Yes, this is a myth. This is simply not true. If this were the case, SAMs in America will be extinct in 50 years! 
I’ve heard comments from white girls, and they aren’t opposed to dating Asian at all. They just say that no Asian guys have ever asked them out, so they never had the opportunity. See! We do it to ourselves, boys! The number of Asian guys who ask Caucasian girls out is very small, and that is why the success rate is also small. If more SAMs become confident, and ask more girls of other ethnicities out, then there will be more action period.
I mean, what’s there not to like? Lately, it’s cool to have shaved legs, arms, and chests. We have that naturally! We are clean and well-groomed. We are understanding, and most of us are good listeners. All we need is a little more cocky attitude, and start asking more girls out! The current imbalance is due to the fact that men in other cultures are very aggressive, and asking these girls out while we are busy playing Nintendo in our bedroom with other SAMs. And, that’s why Asian girls are dating out of their race; they are tired of waiting for SAM to ask them out.
August 14th, 2006 at 5:56 pm
Dude… I went to LA for a conference, and met a bunch of girls, and lots of them thought I was hot. Believe me guys. There are LOTS of white girls waiting for a rice stick. The funny thing with those girls is that a lot of them have Asian boyfriends, but the girls had to approach them first! We gotta change this, guys. Pathetic. The white girls can hunt better than we can…
August 20th, 2006 at 4:10 am
I was on a Train to NYC once and there was this Russian girl: cute, red hair, and had a set to match. She was looking at me smiling. Unfortunately, I was too much of a pussy to do anything about it. Eastern European girl, especially the slim ones really dig Asian guys. So get your confident up and go get them. Forget them stuck-up bitches.
August 20th, 2006 at 7:30 am
DUDE! You missed your chance to taste Russian???? Oh, man…
Yeah, man. EVERYONE of us have moments where we were too afraid to go after a girl, even when the light was green! Remember those moments and let that fuel you so you don’t do it again. You will get another chance!
August 22nd, 2006 at 8:32 pm
“white girls don’t like asian men….who are idiots.”
this topic really hits home with me; i’ve dated both asian and white girls and really there isn’t much of a difference. well, the white girls are more physically developed, but otherwise no other significant difference.
race isn’t an issue here (unless you’ve come across a rare racist); it’s more mutual attraction and following through when you get a sign. that dude on the train should’ve gone up to her to say hello…even if he didn’t reciprocate her smile. funny how asians don’t smile much; is this due to straight A crazy parents?
anyway, forget the superficial things like your race (don’t be an idiot) and pursue her. you’ve got nothing to lose.
August 22nd, 2006 at 9:08 pm
There’s one big difference: Asian girls have Asian parents. One set is all I can handle. Can I get an amen?
August 23rd, 2006 at 7:32 pm
Amen.
August 26th, 2006 at 4:25 pm
Its true tho, russian girls love us asian men. Anyways, the reason I don’t ask white girls out is not because I’m not confident or afraid or anything. Its that I just plain think asian women are better looking. I mean I would much rather go for an asian girl than a white one, its not about being too shy to ask them out at all.
August 29th, 2006 at 7:36 am
I’m white and a dedicated dater of Asian men – I leave those big, gross, hairy white guys to the Asian women. But after much frustration I’ve mostly given up on Asian-Americans, and mostly date Mainland Chinese guys, who are very sexually confident. When I try to flirt with Asian-American men, I get one of three reactions: 1. Eek! A woman is hitting on me! *Scuttles away* 2. “You’re hot and I’m flattered, but I’m not into white girls.” Fine if it’s aesthetic like the guy above – hey, I’m not attracted to white people either – but often it’s derived from racial/cultural snobbery and superiority. Asian-Americans stereotype whites as much as white Americans stereotype A-As. 3. We do go out, and the guy won’t stop obsessing over, “Oh my god, I can’t believe I’ve landed a pretty white girl!” Which gets annoying so I dump him.
“white girls don’t like asian men….who are idiots.” Exactly.
Lots of white American women have commented to me that they’re very attracted to Asian men (as well they should be!), only they never get an opportunity to date them.
Actually, a lot of my Asian-American girlfriends cite a similar reason for dating white guys. “Asian men are too much work.” So, guys, step up to the plate! I’m rooting for y’all.
August 29th, 2006 at 10:37 am
Yes! I’m so glad you found our site, Shanghai Meimi! Your perspective is invaluable to us, it really is. I was surprised that you wrote that you ‘mostly date Mainland Chinese guys, who are very sexually confident’. Would you say those guys are very common??? How about Korean and Japanese guys?
But, I agree that Asian Americans act like you stated. Typical SAM behavior! SOOOO typical. We’re trying to change all that so you can find more dates!
Besides the fact that you like Asian guys’ physical traits, what other things have you noticed about them that you like?
September 3rd, 2006 at 6:57 pm
I would say most Mainland men have the same majority, we’re in charge, slightly oblivious to their own faults confidence that the average white American guy does. There is a shy minority, like anywhere, but they’re small. What makes Chinese men most insecure is their financial status, and that is what women here judge them by. I dislike this, but I’m not a Chinese woman.
Japanese men are SO culturally different from Chinese that I find them really hard to relate to much. The one Korean man I know is, contrary to the stereotype, super sweet but even shyer than your average A-A. So I don’t have much perspective to proffer.
I really find it impossible to generalize about Asians, or even just about Chinese. I like northern Chinese for their intense opinionatedness (although it gets old fast), eastern Chinese for their easy, laid-back directness, and southerners for their obsessive practicality. And that already overgeneralizes. Asian-Americans are *completely* different from Asians. As a geeky, knowledge-obsessed overachiever, I grew up with mostly A-A friends, so there’s a comfort factor there. Plus I quite *like* the self-effacing, polite respectfulness of A-A guys, at least they’ll have a conversation instead of trying to hump your leg or something. The problem is that most A-A guys combine those charming aspects with extreme insecurity, mommy issues, racism and banana baggage.
March 2nd, 2010 at 8:32 am
HI
a few things about myself, i just turned 19, not trying to be an elitist but I really feel like im the asian guy that stands out in a crowd, 6′2″, well built; i like to workout, dress in the sexiest clothing possible without looking gay, if u ask me which celebrity I look like, i’d say Adam Levine. not to mention my mercedes-benz also flatters my dates.
I just have this huge thing for white girls, redheads blondes brunettes, I just find them soooo sexy, they turn me on, mostly because i went to highschool in a very rich neighborhood and there’s just nothing but white girls(sadly there was like 1% black people i wonder why). Although i’ve got turned down many times by white girls I still love flirting with them, i’ve been close to one or two asian girls my age in the past few years, but i just didnt feel the attraction and they were not that fun to hangout with (very honest opinion).
My girlfriend is irish/german, i love everything about her, although i have a lot of homework (college undergrad), I’ve been staying up very late/allnighters to do my homework just so i can spend a lot of time with her. I act completely different when i am with my girlfriend, her gentleness soothes me and I stop caring for all the things that are going on in the world. Being in love is beautiful im sure i dont need to repeat that.
OK~ apart from all that useless bullshit. all i want to say is that all the guys out there, not just asian guys, you have to know what is it that you want, and you have to go get it no matter what it takes. Stop blaming your race/stereotypes, or other people, it is you. go hit the gym, work on your charisma, some people are humorous and some are not, just relax and laugh with her if you are not, and if your parents arent loaded
go earn money and spend it on your girl not because you want her to sleep with you but because you love her. if you only like the way the white girls look, that’s fine with me, just go get em, there are a plenty of girls that need someone to love them, someone to have a fun time with, don’t be afraid, because charm is in all of you.
March 2nd, 2010 at 8:43 am
shanghai Meimi:
Shanghai might not be the best place if you want to meet the fine muscular men, go to northeast china hehe
March 2nd, 2010 at 8:57 am
The way men should dress, in my opinion, has been so mis-understood, BY MEN. What i am trying to say is, there’s a fine line between gay and sex appealing. Our society for the most part are used to having women attract men with looks, people forget that women also can pick who she want to be with. start experimenting on your own appearance. remember if you are not physically fit wearing a smaller sized shirt might not be the best of ideas. good luck! P.S: I think guys with long hair that covers part of their face look retarded, to me it seems that they are not confident, and lack masculinity.
March 2nd, 2010 at 11:48 am
Hey Good posts BBC. I personally think you make a lot of sense. It comes down to preference, and nobody should stop you from pursuing what you like. Due to our environment, culture, and personality, people like different types.
I also agree that you need to experiment. Your personality and style, even later in life, is dynamic and can be changed at will. Everybody is a work of art in the making, and it’s up to you to make choices to improve those things that you aren’t satisfied with. I think a lot of SAMs don’t experiment enough or study themselves enough. I personally find it motivating to learn and grow.
July 20th, 2010 at 8:18 pm
white women ‘hunted’ better because they do not have any negative stereotypes. You’re asian, I would have thought you’d figured this out…guess not.